Doyin (pronounced doe-ween) has made a splash on the internet showing the world how Dads do their job.
Their job as fathers that is of course, not whatever other job it is that they might have that earns money and status, oh, and stress!
Doyin's post of a picture of him brushing his daughter's hair while carrying another in a baby carrier has evoked a range of excited responses.
But as he notes, it was the ones that made a big deal of him doing this stuff that is kind of weird. As Doyin points out, if a mother posted a similar picture, it would be no big deal.
It would be bit like a photograph of a working mum sitting at her desk in her office drinking her morning cup of coffee and printing out the monthly sales report.
Yep, really weird.
Thanks Doyin, more evidence of 'the other glass ceiling'!
Here's Doyin's dream - in his own words:
"I have a dream that people will view a picture like this and not think it’s such a big deal. Don’t get me wrong here – it’s a very cute picture, and it’s cool when people say so. However, I start to get a little uncomfortable when people want to start planning parade routes for me because of it. Somewhere there’s a dad doing the exact same thing for his daughters. Somewhere there’s a dad who put his foot down with his boss and refused to attend an “urgent staff meeting” so he could leave work early to attend his daughter’s dance recital. Somewhere there’s a single dad successfully getting his three sons ready for school. Somewhere there’s a stay at home dad crushing all of the cooking, cleaning, laundry for his family. Somewhere there’s a dad who would rather play catch in the backyard with his son instead of killing pixelated terrorists on his XBox.
In other words, there are plenty of good, involved dads out there. Many of them are reading this post right now.
I’ve posted hundreds of pictures of my family since I started blogging and I had no idea that this one would cause such a seismic shift on the WWW. But what if I posted a picture of MDW doing what I did in that picture? Many would probably think it’s cute, but after ten seconds of looking at it, they would probably move on to the next shiny object on their newsfeed. Why? Because it just wouldn’t be a big deal to many people if a woman did it.
Until we can get to the point where men and women can complete the same parenting tasks and the reactions are the same, we will have problems. If you want to create a statue for me for taking care of my daughters, create one for the moms who are doing the same damn thing everyday for their kids without receiving a “Thank you” or an “Ooooh” or “Ahhhh.”
These behaviors should be expected of moms and dads. No exceptions."